Adoption is believed to be the best long term solution for a child outside of being cared for by their own family. It is a legal process that is conducted in accordance with the Children’s Act. Should you consider this option, you would need to sign consent to the fact that you will no longer be the parent of your child, and that you have no financial or parental responsibilities towards them. Your child would get a new family that has been carefully selected to meet their needs in a stable, permanent and loving home. You need to be above the age of 18 to legally place your child up for adoption, if you are younger than 18 your parents or guardian will need to sign the adoption consent form in your place.
As your child will be brought up by another family, you may experience feelings of loss, guilt, denial, regret and grief. Your child may wish to know who its biological family is for ancestral purposes, but they may feel rejected and resent you for placing them up for adoption and not caring for them yourself. Some adoptees struggle with their identity formation due to living with an adopted family, rather than their biological family. You may be able to reconnect with your child when they become an adult, but this will be at the discretion of your child.
To help you make this decision, it is advisable that you contact an accredited adoption social worker or child protection organisation who can assist you. To find an organisation close to you, please click here. Alternatively, please contact our call centre on 0800 864 658 for immediate assistance